The 90/10 Principle.
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the
way
you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up
of
what happens 2 you. 90% is decided by how you react. What does this
mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot
stop
the car from breaking down; the plane being late in arriving, which
throws
our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have
no
control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90% How? By your reaction. You cannot
control a red light, but YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee on to your business shirt. You have no
control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how
you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup
over. She breaks down
in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your
spouse & criticize her for
placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle
follows. You storm upstairs & change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find
your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
breakfast & get ready for
school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave
immediately for work.
You rush to the car & drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late,
you drive 110km/h in a 80 km/h speed limit. After a
15-min delay & throwing
$300 & some demerit points (traffic fine) away, you
arrive at school. Your
daughter runs into the building without saying
goodbye. You arrive at the
office 20mins late, because of how you reacted in
the morning. Why did you
have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is obviously YOU. You had no control over
what happened with the
coffee. How you reacted in those 5secs is what caused
your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about
to cry. You gently say,
"It's ok honey, you just need to be more careful
next time". Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt
& your briefcase, you
come back down in time to look through the window &
see your child getting
on the bus. She turns & waves. You and your spouse
kiss before you go to
work. You arrive 5min early & cheerfully greet
the staff. Your boss
comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios.
Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you
REACTED. YOU really do not have any control over
10% of what happens. The
other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are
some ways to apply the
90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you,
don't be a sponge. Let the
attack roll off like water on glass. You don't
have to let the negative
comment affect you. React properly & it will not
ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being
fired, getting stressed
out, etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off
in traffic? Do you lose
your temper? Pound on the steering wheel & hurt
your own fingers? Do you
curse? Does your blood pressure rocket? Do you try
& bump them? WHO CARES
if you arrive 10 secs later at work? Why let the
cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about
it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and
get irritated? It will
work out. Use your worrying energy & time into
finding another job. The
plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule
for the day. Why take
out your frustration on the flight attendant? She
has no control over what
is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the
other passengers. Why
get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10
principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the
results. You will lose
nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. It seems simple
commonsense but very few
apply this principle! The result? Millions of
people are suffering from
undeserved stress, court trials, problems &
heartaches. They never seem to
be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days.
Terrible things seem to be
constantly happening. There is constant stress,
lack of joy, & broken
relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks
friendships & life
seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest.
Friends are lost. Life is a bore & often seems cruel. Does this
describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different!
way
you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up
of
what happens 2 you. 90% is decided by how you react. What does this
mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot
stop
the car from breaking down; the plane being late in arriving, which
throws
our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have
no
control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90% How? By your reaction. You cannot
control a red light, but YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee on to your business shirt. You have no
control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how
you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup
over. She breaks down
in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your
spouse & criticize her for
placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle
follows. You storm upstairs & change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find
your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
breakfast & get ready for
school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave
immediately for work.
You rush to the car & drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late,
you drive 110km/h in a 80 km/h speed limit. After a
15-min delay & throwing
$300 & some demerit points (traffic fine) away, you
arrive at school. Your
daughter runs into the building without saying
goodbye. You arrive at the
office 20mins late, because of how you reacted in
the morning. Why did you
have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is obviously YOU. You had no control over
what happened with the
coffee. How you reacted in those 5secs is what caused
your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about
to cry. You gently say,
"It's ok honey, you just need to be more careful
next time". Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt
& your briefcase, you
come back down in time to look through the window &
see your child getting
on the bus. She turns & waves. You and your spouse
kiss before you go to
work. You arrive 5min early & cheerfully greet
the staff. Your boss
comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios.
Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you
REACTED. YOU really do not have any control over
10% of what happens. The
other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are
some ways to apply the
90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you,
don't be a sponge. Let the
attack roll off like water on glass. You don't
have to let the negative
comment affect you. React properly & it will not
ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being
fired, getting stressed
out, etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off
in traffic? Do you lose
your temper? Pound on the steering wheel & hurt
your own fingers? Do you
curse? Does your blood pressure rocket? Do you try
& bump them? WHO CARES
if you arrive 10 secs later at work? Why let the
cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about
it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and
get irritated? It will
work out. Use your worrying energy & time into
finding another job. The
plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule
for the day. Why take
out your frustration on the flight attendant? She
has no control over what
is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the
other passengers. Why
get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10
principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the
results. You will lose
nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. It seems simple
commonsense but very few
apply this principle! The result? Millions of
people are suffering from
undeserved stress, court trials, problems &
heartaches. They never seem to
be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days.
Terrible things seem to be
constantly happening. There is constant stress,
lack of joy, & broken
relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks
friendships & life
seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest.
Friends are lost. Life is a bore & often seems cruel. Does this
describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different!
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